Men: How to Help a Woman

There has been a lot of discussion recently about contraceptives, abortion coverage, and corresponding religious liberty issues. Particularly with the implementation of Obamacare (the Affordable Care Act), there has likely never been more espousing of the non-theoretical impacts of mandated abortion coverage carried in health care insurance policies.

There is current litigation concerning requirements that religious employers cover contraception that is against their religious belief. Radio show monologues stir furor. And the issue of women's health has taken on a new turn.

So, why do I, as a guy, bring this up? Because I believe that men can make a difference in the whole situation.

How? Say, "No."

Wait, What?

Let me explain.

The suggested purpose of proposing coverage of contraceptives in health care policies is, in short, so that women can have the same freedoms as men when it comes to sexual relationships. Or, in other words, to be on an equal playing field regarding promiscuity.

The problem. First: men and women are biologically different. Second: contraceptives fail. When failure happens (most likely from human error), biology takes over, sometimes leading to conception. For the last 40 years, the United States has had a fall back plan in this case - abortion - thanks to Roe v. Wade.

The point of abortion is to stop the female body from doing what it naturally does - care for a developing human being. (I know there is contention on the fact of what is truly in existence. I use the term human being as defined biologically - an organism defined by a unique set of chromosomes as consistent with being a human. Any consideration passed the biological one becomes a moral consideration.) This interruption of the natural course of biology is antithetical to design of the female body. To go against the biological design is to attempt to make it not be something that it is. In short, it is to say to the female body that it is not female. It is to take away from woman the very idea of the feminine by attacking a fundamental element of the difference between male and female. Regardless, it places a woman at odds with her own being. And, a house divided cannot stand.

Now for the other half of the equation. The biological process requires a man and a woman. However, the consequences are entirely different for a man. He is able to walk away from any encounter without worrying whether or not his body is now supporting another human being. (Not to say there are not real and tangible consequences for men.) Between the two sides of equation, one is biologically designed to bear out the natural results of sex.

So, men. It is time to say "no." Instead of allowing women to bear the burden of children, of being forced into a life altering position, of feeling forced to make a decision that goes against her fundamental nature, the responsibility is upon us to choose not to engage in activity that will place her there. It is upon us now to say "no" to sex until we can fully support her in her biological role of protecting another human being. Until we are able to be fathers. Until we can with certainty say, "be a woman." And truly mean it to the full extent.

If we, as men, say no until we can support the natural consequences of sex, then she will not have to choose an abortion. And there is no possibility that five, ten, or twenty years from now she looks back with regret, anger, and bitterness at having sacrificed a child at the altar of pleasure.

Yes, this means saying no to your "needs." No, this is not easy - it may be one of the most difficult things you do. But think about this. Her need is to not to have to make painful and fearful decisions. Her need is to be able to be what she is biologically and humanly. Her need is to be able to trust you so she feels free to be who and what she is. So, are your "needs" really worth more than that.

Men, I urge you to say "no" for her sake.

C.F. Brake is a young attorney working to change the culture for the sake of our young men and women. Follow the blog on Twitter (@cf_brake) or e-mail C.F. Brake at cfbrakeblog@gmail.com.