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Porn: Is it Really a Big Deal?

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Is porn really a big deal?

Let's listen in on what Pastor John Piper has to say to a young woman considering marriage to a man struggling with pornography.

 
So, how does porn affect us?

Consider the four elements Piper puts forth.

- It is unloving.
- It is adulterous.
- Destructive to a man's capacities to love a woman purely for herself.
- Destructive to a man's soul; his capacity to see God in the purity and greatness of His glory is shriveled.

How does this play out:

Porn says reality is not good enough.

Pornography is a conglomeration of photoshopped images and tantalizing scenarios. None of which exist in the real world. Today on the internet there are infinite amounts just clicks away. Every click brings a new experience and new stimulation. You can fast-forward and rewind. Nothing in the real world comes close to the expansive nature of sexual images and videos.

Porn tells a woman she is not good enough.

Nothing is more demeaning to a woman than saying that a digital image is more enticing than she is. It suggests that she is lacking something. That something about her is insufficient. That she is not worthy of your attention.

A wife of a friend once caught him looking at pornography. Her response was exactly on point. She said, "it is either me or the porn." The two can never exist together.

Ultimately, pornography tells a woman that the only way for her to be loved is to give her body. It reduces her to nothing more than an object of lust.

Porn teaches a man he need not commit.

When sexual fulfillment comes without the demands of growing and relating to another person, the benefits of investing in a real relationship look overly burdensome. Its like eating microwave dinners. They are simple, easy, and fattening. We may not always desire them, but the simplicity and ease of putting them in the microwave quickly makes the work of cooking a quality and healthy dinner seem excessive. Yes, we may desire good food, but have trained ourselves to forgo the work of making it.

Porn leaves a lasting residue.

Even after overcoming or having success in fighting against pornography, its leaves a residual library of images. Our brains, especially men, are incredibly visual and incredibly receptive to multimedia. Everything that goes in gets cataloged and stored. Years after looking at pornography those residual images can continue to be repeated in our minds. Consider sitting in the middle of the perfect date with an amazing woman and having these image roll through your mind.

Is there any harm in porn? I think the answer is very simple. Yes.

1 Peter 2:11
Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul.

But, always remember there is hope.

Titus 2:11-14
For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good.



C.F. Brake is a young attorney working to change the culture for the sake of our young men and women. Follow the blog on Twitter (@cf_brake) or e-mail C.F. Brake at cfbrakeblog@gmail.com.
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